Today my sister-friend got married. Now, I don’t have any women with who I share genetic DNA of my parents’ chromosomes; but God has blessed me with beautiful women in my life who have morphed from friends to sisters. I use the word “morph” because change took place over time. Friends have the privilege of becoming the families that we choose. And one of them got married today in the presence of her loved ones.
When she and her husband (I can’t believe it! Yesterday they were fiancé’s. What a difference a day can make!) were saying their ‘Thank Yous,’ she said something that caught my attention: Each one of you was hand-selected to be here today.”
No more than 20 people were present as these two individuals joined themselves one to another and became one. Talk about privilege! It was a beautiful ceremony and both the bride and the groom cried. It was tears of joy as they took one another’s hands and looked into the soul of the person in which they were about to enter into a covenant of eternal relational integrity.
Being one of the 20 made me feel really special. But even though it was a beautiful day (a bit chilly), and a celebratory time, their journey was more meaningful to me, than the actual day. Don’t get me wrong, without “The Day” there would be no marriage. However, the journey made this day so much more special to me.
I remember it was December several years ago when my friend told me she was “talking” to this guy. For those of you who are not familiar with this vernacular, “talking” is a loose, less formal type of courtship. The two of us had gone to a store run to pick up a few things that she needed for work. It was a Saturday night and we were hanging out, as friends/sisters do. The way that she spoke about this guy was different from anyone I had ever heard her talk about. She was giddy and happy about getting to know this man.
A few years later, her now-boyfriend, contacted me without my friend’s knowledge to “hang out.” I have a 6th sense for these things, I knew what he wanted to talk about, and my suspicions were correct, he wanted to ask her to marry him.
We discussed a plan and I had my job tucked away, I was to take her to get a manicure. It wasn’t odd to her, because sisters do things like that. A few days later she was engaged! What made it all the more wonderful was the presence of their mothers her surprise engagement.
So when it was time for her to get married, of course, I was honored to step in and help in every and any way that I could. Witnessing their commitment to one another brought me a joy that I could not explain. John the Baptist who was also the cousin of Jesus said: “He who has the bride is the bridegroom; but the friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly because of the bridegroom’s voice. So this joy of mine has been made full.” John 3:29.
John’s joy came from hearing the groom announce His love for His bride. Jesus is the Groom and we are His bride. We’re currently engaged to Him as Paul mentions: I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy. For I promised you to one husband, to present you as a pure virgin to Christ.” 2 Corinthians 11:2. I get what Paul is saying. As the friend of the husband to be, you want to make sure that their future spouse stays committed only to them. If I were to see my friend or her now-husband, sneaking around and dating other people, I would be as upset as I was joyful for their union.
Paul knew that God would always be faithful, because listen to what the Lord says: “So I will betroth you to Me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in loving devotion and compassion.” Hosea 2:19. That word of loving devotion is the Hebrew word Chesed which we’ve discussed before. But simply put it’s a deep, intentional, steadfast, active, and attentive affections from one person to another. It does not change based on the person’s “feelings” but is more of a way of being towards another. And Paul understood that God would rather die than remove His Chesed from you and me.
So, as the friend of the groom, his Brother according to the word: For both the One who sanctifies and those who are sanctified are of the same family. So Jesus is not ashamed to call them brothers.” Hebrews 2:11, Paul will do everything he can to make sure the couple can say “I DO” at the end.
While it was my honor and privilege to be a part of my sister’s journey down the aisle, it is my deepest joy that these last 300 plus blogs have been helping you in some way on your journey down the aisle to Him. To the One who stands at the alter as the ultimate sacrifice, placing your life before His. Who stands with His arms open wide, ready to fill you with His Chesed love for all of eternity.
I pray that one day we may meet, and I’ll be able to hear about your walk down the aisle of how you fell deeper and deeper in love with Him.