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I want to get a shirt that states: Your lack of planning is NOT my emergency.” Some individuals live in the mindset of procrastination. And when they realize that something needs to be done, it always happens to be in an emergent manner. And then their anxiety becomes my anxiety. Because once I am a part of their problem, they stop worrying about it, for the simple reason being that they have passed on their problem over to me. I used to get dragged into those types of situations all the time. Once it was someone that I went to school with decades ago. She reached out to me for help. It was the strangest thing, I asked her why me? We hadn’t seen each other in almost 20 years. She told me that a mutual acquaintance, another student we went to school with around the same time, told her to reach out to me. That was really insane because I hadn’t spoken to that individual in about 15 years. She proceeded to tell me that the mutual acquaintance told her that she could count on me to help. For the life of me, I still don’t know why. But help I did.
Now when I helped the first two times, I was frantic. I had to make sure that I was filling in the gap wherever she needed. She had kids and did not have a stable environment for them to live, less than thrive. By the time we got to emergency numbers 4 and 5, my bank account was getting to the point of being overdrawn. But I had to help her, right? Forget the fact that I was a Christian, I felt so guilty. She was in a situation that broke my heart. And I couldn’t help but wonder if I had pushed her down that path. When we were teenagers, good friends. But then there was a boy. A boy that I liked began hanging out with her. I got jealous and let me tell you that teenagers can be quite mean.
The Bible tells us: A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body; jealousy is like cancer in the bones.” Proverbs 14:30. And I let that terrible cancer eat me alive. I became so harsh and cruel to her when she needed the love of Jesus exemplified to her the most. So when I found out later in life that she did not have a roof over her head, and that her children were struggling, my heart broke. What if I had been kind and not mean? What if I had been like Jesus, and not like me? Those questions meant nothing now because I could not rewrite the past. So, I reached in my wallet, hoping to buy my peace and forgiveness from her.
I apologize for what I said and did that one day 20 years before. She laughed at me because she barely recalled it at all. But it had burdened me for decades. When I started to realize that her constant state of emergency was not going away, I had to tell her that I could no longer help financially. I offered to provide her with other resources, but she was not interested. After a while, the phone calls stopped coming. I wonder where she is now. I pray that she’s okay. I pray that God will send someone to her that will fully show her who He really is. That He loves her with an everlasting love. That all the things that have happened to her that broke her heart and tried to kill her spirit, that He was there, loving and crying with her. Desperate that she gives her life over to Him so that He could show her that this life isn’t the final curtain.
I’m thankful that when my lack of planning turned out to be an emergency that God did not let me go through it alone. Maybe we need to take a deep breath and find out how we can help people without enabling them, love them without judging. Maybe then we’ll have fewer emergencies and more stability, more peace. The type of peace that only God can provide:Ā Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” John 14:27.
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